If you’re committed to cherishing your spouse for life and suddenly find your mind fixated on someone else, there are many wrong responses and several right ones. Perhaps I would have managed it better than I did. It would have been so helpful for me to know thirty years ago not to freak out. Not being fore-warned, I wasn’t fore-armed.
It made me think something was wrong with my marriage, rather than that such feelings are normal and even predictable. Six times sounds like a lot to me, but when I found myself very attracted to someone else rather early in my marriage to Lisa, I was caught completely off-guard.
“My experience indicates that most people become infatuated or fall in love with others an average of six times in the course of a long marriage.” I’m not endorsing the book (I haven’t actually read it), but she has a quote in it that I wish I would have read before I got married: In 1977, Avodah Offit wrote a popular book entitled The Sexual Self that became a favorite among many sex therapists.
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